Saturday, November 20, 2010

A Tale of Courage

Today, I'm making my blog public. This may not seem like a huge deal to some of you, however it will take a ton of courage for me to do this. As many of my friends and family know, Ferrari & I are pretty private people. We don't have facebook and never expected to be bloggers. However, God has been tugging at my heart so hard lately, I can no longer ignore it. I know God wants to take the hardest and most tragic things we have gone through as a couple; and make them useful. You know when there are those things you keep saying you will get to at some point in your life, maybe tomorrow, or next week! Well that is how I've been feeling about this blogging business. All I needed was one more day or one more week to get up the courage to do it, well that is no more! God has made it very clear to me, that I need to reach out and provide support and encouragement for women who are struggling with infertility, infant loss, or grief in general. This past week alone I have been told about 2 women who have lost babies. My heart breaks every time I hear about another family having to go through this terrible struggle. My heart hurts even more when I think about the lack of resources available to these women. Trust me, they don't give you a "how to" manual on dealing with this at the hospital. No one tells you about when your milk comes in and you have no baby in your arms to ease the pain. No one tells you how to plan an infants funeral, or what to say at the grave site ceremony. As hard as it is for me to remember going through all of this in May, my heart rejoices when I think about how I can provide some answers or support for someone that is going through this today. We need each other! I have a group of Bible study girls, we refer to ourselves from time to time as the broken hearted babes :) - these women are such an amazing support system for me. There is something incredible about getting together with women who have endured similar hardships, we thrive on the opportunity to encourage each other! I know not everyone feels comfortable seeking out a grief Bible study, and that is pretty much how this blog came to be. If people can come to this blog to seek hope, then I am thrilled! I'm hoping one day to write a book to give mom's hope and encouragement, but for now I know God will use this blog to touch people's lives. Please leave me comments or email me! I would love to chat!


  1. So glad you went public! I loved all of your entries. I'll be bookmarking you :) Can't wait to hear more!!

  2. Shayla, You are such a wonderful writer! I am so impressed by your words and by you! You are an amazing woman. Thank you for your support. I hope I can be there for you as well. The Ten Ways to Encourage Someone Who Has Lost a Baby is unbelievable helpful and wise. People never know how to react or what to do. You and your Babies in Heaven are going to help so many women! You already have been a blessing to me. I am praying for you :) Can I share your blog with others on facebook and my blog? Hugs- Tiff

    I don’t know why God creates some people with sound minds and others without. I don’t know why he gives some women fruitful wombs, while others try for years to no avail. I don’t know why some people fight cancer for years and lose the battle, while others are cured after treatment. And I don’t think we are meant to know, at least in this life.

    When Jesus healed a man born blind, he turned the disciples’ thoughts on their heads by not only healing the man but also explaining that his blindness was so God would get glory in his life (John 9:1-3). So there is a purpose to our suffering and our physical brokenness—so that the works of God might be displayed in our fragile lives. What was destroyed by the fall of man will one day be restored when Christ makes all things new. When he inaugurated his kingdom all those years ago he was showing in his earthly ministry what will one day be true of all who are found in him. Revelation 21:4-5 is a beautiful picture of what is to come: tears will be no more, death and sin will be finally conquered, and all things will be made new.

    That means you.


    Praying for you!